"God ordained!"
How I did it: I lost my job while in escrow on my first house. So I stopped the entire process altogether. I was frustrated because I'd prayed so hard before beginning the journey to make sure it was a part of God's plan for my life before I even began. See, I've learned that when I try to make things happen that aren't in His plan, I go through a lot of frustration and disappointment for no reason...
Lessons & tips: Just look, look, look. Don't get discouraged, and don't settle. I wish I'd held out for a bigger kitchen, but I was tired of looking, and was running out of time for the first time homebuyers tax credit. In the long run though, I think I will hold out next time. Also, I didn't want to pay closing costs and I lost out on a few great places because of it...and in the end, I had to pay them...So, I'd say, if you have it, don't ask the seller to pay them. You'll get a better deal if you pay them yourself. Also, you won't get any of the bank owned properties asking for closing costs.
Resources: My realtor, Pat Sargent. She's the mother of my oldest friend. I've known her for 25 years. She's incredibly patient and looks out for what you really want in a home. She's all about you, and not about the sale. Let me know if you want her info. :)
It took me 2 years.
It made me